by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of the Wise Heart Coaching fame

Last post we talked about how to create atmosphere in the bedroom.  In this final post on the series, we will continue this with some great ideas I found on the Internet.  Are you ready to create romance?

• Paint or wallpaper your walls an exciting color – walls do not have to be eggshell white.
• Find some provocative fun paintings for your room.  According to The Secret movie, if you want a mate, surround yourself with art of two people together – best if they are kissing or facing each other.
• Get rid of the old, dusty blinds and replace them with lacy panels
• Add candles, softer lights, bedside lamps, for that dimmed light look.
• If your mattress is old and sunk in – invest in a new one – your back will hurt a lot less.  And king size it!
• Add flowers and plants such as ferns. 
• Add pillows that can be used for fun as well as decoration.

Trust me when I tell you that if you want to create romance, make sure the atmosphere is romantic.  The bedroom ought to be a sacred spot where you go to rekindle romance and to rest your head. 

Now, for that special night, here are some tips!

• Take a bath in oils so that you smell great and your skin is soft and slippery
• Avoid perfumes as they often cause sneezing or plugged sinuses – unless you happen to know your lover is into your perfume.
• Wear something that makes you feel sexy – feeling sexy is an important part of romance – and make sure it is easy for your lover to take off.  This may be a good time for the Passionate Purple Panties!
•  Make it fun – have flower petals spread up to the bedroom and into the bed.
• Have some fun finger food and drink (personally I would avoid alcohol as it often causes sleepiness).
• Play some soft music
• Have fun! 

Now, you may be thinking – “Why do I need to do all of this?  Isn’t this more like what they do in the movies – real people don’t do this.”  Well, my suggestion is to try it.  There is nothing to say that your life can’t be like the movies.  See if adding atmosphere does not add to your romance.  It sure can’t hurt!

This is the last in the series.  Please let me know if you enjoyed it, learned from it, want more.

Other posts in this series: 

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64
• Part 3: Bring on the Romance!!!
• Part 4: Pina Caladas?
• Part 5: Sex and the Senior Citizen
• Part 6: The Love Nest

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by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of the Wise Heart Coaching fame 

In the last post we talked about sex and the senior citizen.  This issue we will talk about your Love Nest.  This will be a two part series. 

Now, this issue is for everyone.  It doesn’t matter if you are in your 20’s or 90’s, you want to have romance, then you want a romantic room.  A couple that I am friends with decided to make their room more “sexy.”  They were in their 30’s and had been married for about 10 years and wanted to add some spice.  So, they went shopping for paint and ended up with a passionate Peptol Bismol bedroom.  Funny it didn’t make them feel sexy at all.  They painted over it.  But they had the right idea – you want to create atmosphere. 

So, how does your room look?  Do you have the treadmill in one corner covered in clothes, the TV on a stand with lots of videos around it, and then of course there is the pile of old newspapers and books to read?  No, no, no – this is not a bedroom; it is a dumping ground for useless material.  A sexy bedroom does not have any of these things. 

Let’s clean it up!

If you Google “sexy bedrooms” you will find they have chandeliers, candles, beautiful fabrics, canopies, flowers or plants, pillows, a touch of elegance, mirrors, settees and chairs.  If they must have a TV – it is placed as a piece of art in the room – not on an old stand or on top of the dresser.  I suggest that you check out sites on sexy bedrooms and see what you can do to enhance yours. 

Final Topic on this series this Friday:  How to spruce up your love nest?

Other posts in this series:

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64
• Part 3: Bring on the Romance!!!
• Part 4: Pina Caladas?
• Part 5: Sex and the Senior Citizen

  

 

 

 

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By Rita R. Robison, Consumer Specialist, Blogging at The Survive and Thrive Boomer Guide
Guest Blogger
One way baby boomers can make progress in getting what they want in life is to hire a life coach.
Life coaches, who often work with clients over the phone, help people set goals and move toward achieving them. They can help boomers who are dealing with:

• Helping aging parents.

• Increasing stress at home and on the job.

• Raising children.

• Figuring out what they want to do in retirement.

I worked with a life coach several years ago and had positive results. I wanted to do more consumer writing. Now here I am today with two boomer consumer blogs and the opportunity to blog once a week for Boomer411.
If you decide to work with a life coach, be sure you undertake a thorough selection process. Life coaches aren’t regulated in most states so anyone can say they’re a life coach.
Here’s a check list for choosing a life coach:

• Interview at least three life coaches.

• Find out how much a session costs, how long the sessions will be, and how many times a month they’re offered.

• Ask if you’ll be required to make a commitment for a certain number of appointments.

• Ask about the life coach’s credentials, for example whether he or she is certified by the International Coach Federation. (You can go to the federation’s Web site and search for the names of life coaches in your area.)

• Ask about the coach’s educational background, professional background, and years of experience.

• Find out if the coach will offer a complimentary session so you can ask questions and see if you would like working with the coach.

• Choose a life coach you feel comfortable with.

Life coaches charge from $25 to $300 per session, with the average being around $125.

For more information on life coaching, see the article “Life Coaches Are Helping Baby Boomers Create Better Lives” on my Seattle Post-Intelligencer reader blog the Boomer Consumer.

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by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of the Wise Heart Coaching fame

Ooh, now let’s get down tonight
Baby I’m hot just like an oven
I need some lovin’
And baby, I can’t hold it much longer
It’s getting stronger and stronger
Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye

Last week we talked about the need to add romance. This week – it is ‘sex.”

Why is it that much of media thinks that humans over a certain age no longer think about nor want sex? Excuse me – but we know better. I personally love the show “Boston Legal” because of the 40, 50, 60 and 70 year olds who all work together and seem to all have an active sex life. I love that the 40-year-old lawyer thinks that his boss is sexy – and she is at least 25 years older than him. Hurray!!!! Why not???

It is a myth that men and women suddenly no longer care for a good romp in the bed when they get older. OK, maybe it isn’t every night – but once a week is still OK. One date I had actually thought that women over 50 no longer wanted sex. Really????

Yes, there may be physical issues that get in the way – but with love and caring they do not have to be an issue. For men there seem to be a huge variety of pharmaceuticals and natural remedies for his ED. (Funny until that little blue pill we never even thought about ED – at least I didn’t.) For women it may be dryness or irritation. There are creams and gels that help with female issues as well. In other words, there is no excuse. See your doctor if you are having problems in these areas. It seems the medical association and drug companies are very concerned about your sex life. Now it is time for you to be.

Sex is healthy at any age (check with your doctor first if you have heart concerns) and can actually be considered a form of exercise. “So honey – the gym or the bedroom?” You burn a lot of calories having intercourse. It also is a great way to lift your mood, feel more energized, and of course, bring a great glow to your skin. In other words, it is healthy.

So, what stops us from having sex more often? It may be because you don’t have anyone in your life – I get that one!!!! But often even those who are married – miss out on the joys of sex. It is usually because we get lazy. My suggestion, if sex has drifted out of your marriage, check out the issues before this one and put some of those methods to work. Ladies there are those PPP’s? And men, I suggest grooming.

Next Topic: Love Nest.

Other posts in this series:

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64
• Part 3: Bring on the Romance!!!
• Part 4: Pina Caladas?

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by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of Wise Heart Coaching fame

“If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
If you’re not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.
I’m the lady you’ve looked for, write to me, and escape.”
Escape (The Pina Colada Song)
(Rupert Holmes)

Last issue we talked about the need to add romance back into your relationship to create the feeling of love.

One of the best ways is to re-create romance is to go back to where is started – “Date Night,”
Remember when you knew that Friday or Saturday night was “date night” and you would dress up, clean up, and get all blushed with excitement? Come on – you remember. Well, create that feeling again by planning a weekly “date night.” My thought is that it should vary – take turns – one week one partner and the next week the other partner comes up with a scathingly brilliant idea for a date. This means you cannot get lazy about this – you have to plan – and start planning a week or more ahead.

Some date night ideas are to say it with flowers or candy (best if it is organic, super dark chocolate, but only a bite). Both men and women love to receive flowers, or a small plant, and/or candy. Be sure to call (I don’t care if it is from the next room from one cell phone to the other) or send an invitation. Invitations make it extra special. Then plan – make sure everything is well planned out. And remember, date night does not have to cost a lot. Sometimes the simpler the better – and the more romantic!

So, here are some creative ideas that my clients have come up with:
• Picnic in the living room with romantic music and a fire (if you have a fireplace of course.)
• Going to the park and watching the sunset. Be sure to bring an extra blanket to cover yourselves with to keep warm and to get closer.
• Have a beauty spa: paint each others toenails, massage each others backs using a nice oil, or wash his or her hair. Or just care for one person this week and the next the other – this creates a feeling of being special for the night.
• Make it a game night. Play cards or a board game or maybe strip poker.
• Watch a romantic movie such as Casablanca, The Graduate or It Happened One Night
• Or watch a sexy movie – How about the original Thomas Crown Affair – and be sure to share food together!
• Find a hobby you both can enjoy together. Stay active – hiking, biking, gym membership, dancing lessons, yoga, or Nia.

When you are in public, hold hands and kiss – people won’t think what’s with these “horny old people?” Rather they will think it is sweet – this is one of the joys of getting older.

Next Topic – shhhh – sex!!!!

Other posts in this series:

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64
• Part 3: Bring on the Romance!!!

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