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In this busy world of mechanical chores, with unending items on our To-Do Lists, life is full of tension and stress. We expect so much from our relationships, but only get a fraction of our expectations back. It’s not like we don’t long for some peace of mind, some harmony. But everywhere we look, sometimes it feels like it is just adding to more stress. Is this really a hopeless situation? Before we attempt to answer this question, let’s read this short story…

“Jill is 6 years old and very energetic as all 6 year olds are. In addition, she is very bubbly and always running/bouncing around. She keeps getting minor injuries, but doesn’t see how. She moves to different spot and continues bouncing around, but inadvertently keeps bumping into things. But she cannot see why she keeps getting injuries.”

Just like our Jill, sometimes we can’t see the source of our own problems. Sometimes, our priorities may be mixed up. At such times it probably helps to slow down and take a few deep breaths. It probably also helps to take the help of the masters in this field. Sometimes the source of our problems may be our outlook on life or our view of the world and we can’t see it for what it is while we are in it. Holistic lifestyle may be one way to live stress-free and have a little peace of mind.

While we are talking about peace of mind, try this on Boomer411.com. Search for the keywords, ‘Peace of Mind’ or actually just click on this link to see the results of the search.

Relationships are one of the prickly issues many times, especially when things are tough. Even more tricky are the issues related to our emotions, our moods. In most cases our moods and emotions are automatically triggered and we may not even be aware of them. But yet, they drive our every action and determine whether we succeed in life or not. But facing and controlling our emotions is not a task for the faint-hearted. It takes a lot of courage and will power to face up to our own weaknesses. But with good help, one can tide over these issues. The price one pays is big as it requires a lot of commitment, willpower and discipline. But the rewards are very huge.

To give an anology, consider you are trying to control weeds in your garden and you only cut the top part of the weed, leaving the roots intact in the ground because pulling the roots out takes more effort and time. In time, the weeds grow back again. Now imagine you took the time to pull out the weeds with the roots and now the weeds do not grow back that quickly. The rewards are a longer lasting healthy, green garden.

This is common sense in gardening. But when it comes to handling our emotions, moods and relationships, most times we blindly act in ways similar to cutting the visible, top portion of the weed. But we never the less expect the results to be a near permanent fix to our problems.

Here are some quick, short videos that help us start on a more holistic approach to addressing these issues. Each video is approximately 15 minutes long, but is packed with valuable insights. Try watching one video every morning. It will hopefully make your day more peaceful, more productive. Some of the topics addressed are ‘Is Anger worth it?’, ‘Dealing with stress’, ‘Improving our relationships with others’, etc.

This past weekend as I was driving I tuned into a local radio station and the radio show host was just sharing with her listeners the following story/advice. It caught my attention and I thought this is a beautiful way to look at our relationships. So I would like to share it with you. Here it is (as best as I could remember and understand it)…

“People come into our lives for one of three causes. Some people come into our lives for a reason; some people come into our lives for a season; and some people come into our lives for a lifetime.”

“When someone comes into our lives for a reason, it is because we have a need for this person. May be there is a lesson to be learned, may be there is a task to be completed for which we need help and so on. Once the reason this person came into our lives is complete, either this person or ourselves will do or say something to end the relationship or it ends naturally. The important thing to remember is not to focus too much on the ending or fuss about it; but to realize that this person came into our lives for a reason and now that reason is fulfilled or accomplished and be thankful for it.”

“When someone comes into our lives for a season, it means we have a bigger need for this person in our lives that goes beyond a mere transaction or a reason. This person is in a relationship with us for a bit longer period of time, such as a season or a few seasons. But again once that time nears the end, this relationship also comes to an end. Again it is because that need was met and our paths are now diverging”

“Then there are some people that come into our lives and stay in a relationship for a lifetime. These are the relationships in which we grow and thrive. These can be our life partner or our family or friends. It is said that Love is blind. But friendships can be chosen.”

So choose your friends carefully so that you can grow together and live a life you can be proud of, because everyone you come in contact with influences you in someway or the other.

While we are talking about relationships, here is an article on ‘7 Power Skills that build Strong Relationships’ from AtPrime. If every one of us learns these basic skills and practices them, wouldn’t this world be a better place to live in? You probably have your own pet set of skills to building strong relationships, if so, what are they?