by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of the Wise Heart Coaching fame

Ooh, now let’s get down tonight
Baby I’m hot just like an oven
I need some lovin’
And baby, I can’t hold it much longer
It’s getting stronger and stronger
Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye

Last week we talked about the need to add romance. This week – it is ‘sex.”

Why is it that much of media thinks that humans over a certain age no longer think about nor want sex? Excuse me – but we know better. I personally love the show “Boston Legal” because of the 40, 50, 60 and 70 year olds who all work together and seem to all have an active sex life. I love that the 40-year-old lawyer thinks that his boss is sexy – and she is at least 25 years older than him. Hurray!!!! Why not???

It is a myth that men and women suddenly no longer care for a good romp in the bed when they get older. OK, maybe it isn’t every night – but once a week is still OK. One date I had actually thought that women over 50 no longer wanted sex. Really????

Yes, there may be physical issues that get in the way – but with love and caring they do not have to be an issue. For men there seem to be a huge variety of pharmaceuticals and natural remedies for his ED. (Funny until that little blue pill we never even thought about ED – at least I didn’t.) For women it may be dryness or irritation. There are creams and gels that help with female issues as well. In other words, there is no excuse. See your doctor if you are having problems in these areas. It seems the medical association and drug companies are very concerned about your sex life. Now it is time for you to be.

Sex is healthy at any age (check with your doctor first if you have heart concerns) and can actually be considered a form of exercise. “So honey – the gym or the bedroom?” You burn a lot of calories having intercourse. It also is a great way to lift your mood, feel more energized, and of course, bring a great glow to your skin. In other words, it is healthy.

So, what stops us from having sex more often? It may be because you don’t have anyone in your life – I get that one!!!! But often even those who are married – miss out on the joys of sex. It is usually because we get lazy. My suggestion, if sex has drifted out of your marriage, check out the issues before this one and put some of those methods to work. Ladies there are those PPP’s? And men, I suggest grooming.

Next Topic: Love Nest.

Other posts in this series:

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64
• Part 3: Bring on the Romance!!!
• Part 4: Pina Caladas?

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