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by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of Wise Heart Coaching fame

“If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
If you’re not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.
I’m the lady you’ve looked for, write to me, and escape.”
Escape (The Pina Colada Song)
(Rupert Holmes)

Last issue we talked about the need to add romance back into your relationship to create the feeling of love.

One of the best ways is to re-create romance is to go back to where is started – “Date Night,”
Remember when you knew that Friday or Saturday night was “date night” and you would dress up, clean up, and get all blushed with excitement? Come on – you remember. Well, create that feeling again by planning a weekly “date night.” My thought is that it should vary – take turns - one week one partner and the next week the other partner comes up with a scathingly brilliant idea for a date. This means you cannot get lazy about this – you have to plan – and start planning a week or more ahead.

Some date night ideas are to say it with flowers or candy (best if it is organic, super dark chocolate, but only a bite). Both men and women love to receive flowers, or a small plant, and/or candy. Be sure to call (I don’t care if it is from the next room from one cell phone to the other) or send an invitation. Invitations make it extra special. Then plan – make sure everything is well planned out. And remember, date night does not have to cost a lot. Sometimes the simpler the better – and the more romantic!

So, here are some creative ideas that my clients have come up with:
• Picnic in the living room with romantic music and a fire (if you have a fireplace of course.)
• Going to the park and watching the sunset. Be sure to bring an extra blanket to cover yourselves with to keep warm and to get closer.
• Have a beauty spa: paint each others toenails, massage each others backs using a nice oil, or wash his or her hair. Or just care for one person this week and the next the other – this creates a feeling of being special for the night.
• Make it a game night. Play cards or a board game or maybe strip poker.
• Watch a romantic movie such as Casablanca, The Graduate or It Happened One Night
• Or watch a sexy movie – How about the original Thomas Crown Affair – and be sure to share food together!
• Find a hobby you both can enjoy together. Stay active – hiking, biking, gym membership, dancing lessons, yoga, or Nia.

When you are in public, hold hands and kiss – people won’t think what’s with these “horny old people?” Rather they will think it is sweet – this is one of the joys of getting older.

Next Topic – shhhh – sex!!!!

Other posts in this series:

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64
• Part 3: Bring on the Romance!!!