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by Judith Auslander, Life Coach of the Wise Heart Coaching fame

Last issue we talked about looking sexy – now we talk about Romance!!!!

Remember that song, “Do you love me?” from Fiddler on the Roof?  Tevye sings to Golde, “Do you love me?” and she responds,

“Do I love you?
For twenty-five years I’ve washed your clothes
Cooked your meals, cleaned your house
Given you children, milked the cow
After twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?”

Why talk about love right now?  Do we need to be told we are loved?  Do we need to tell our partner that we love them?  The response to both questions is “hell yes!”  We never tire of hearing those precious words that we are loved and cared for.  Why do we stop saying we love someone – the reasons are numerous.  It could be because we get lazy, it could be because we no longer think our partner loves us, it may be because we don’t see our own selves as loveable.  The thing is we can rekindle the romantic spark of love – even if it has been twenty-five years - or a lot more. 

Remember the song, “Escape” (better known as the Pina Colada song)?

I was tired of my lady, we’d been together too long.
Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song. 
Rupert Holmes

This kind of “worn out recording” happens because we stop asking what the other person wants, needs or enjoys.  We start assuming.  That is pure laziness!!!  The best way to rekindle the words, “I love you,” is to rekindle your interest in your partner – and the romance. 

So, how do you add romance back into a marriage or relationship?  This is easy, but it will take work.  The thing is we tend to lose imagination.  Guys, once again, pretend you are 19 and want some.  Ladies, pretend you are sweet 16 and really want to be kissed.  Use variety and imagination. 

Next week’s Topic – So you really like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain??????

Other posts in this series:

• Part 1: Passionate Purple Panties (PPPs)
• Part 2: Sexy at 64